1) I didn’t have a modern nursery
in fact, it was quite the opposite. It was filled with color and animals on the walls. I’m so glad we didn’t make the decision to spend a lot of money on our nursery, because we only used it for the first two and a half months of her life. I breastfeed and we cosleep – her nursery has now been turned in to a spare room and her crib now a sidecar to our bed.
2) Brynlee’s toys aren’t all made from trees
I LOVE wooden toys, and she does have a good bit of them. But at the end of the day, she has grandparents and other family members who are buying her toys and we did not feel as though it was the right thing for our family to banish all plastic toys and I think that’s okay.
3) Tracking and beyond
We never used those handy-dandy tracking apps or cheat sheets. I never felt the need to track diapers and nursing sessions once we got home from the hospital, and I praise the moms who kept at it because I just didn’t have it in me. I’m positive that it’s an amazing thing to have to look back on as your little one’s grow, though. And I kinda wish I had done that, now.
4) We aren’t nearly as eco-friendy as I wish we were
I didn’t cloth diaper, and Sams Club doesn’t sell Seventh Generation or Honest Diapers. We use huggies, and they are what work best for our family. Had I been able to buy Honest diapers in bulk without ordering online, we probably would’ve used them – because hello, they’re so cute!
Most of her clothes aren’t organic, and I rarely shop on instagram boutiques. We do try to go organic where we can, and we’re working on getting at this better every day.
5) I didn’t have a boho baby shower
My baby shower was very small and sweet. I enjoy looking at all of the magazine baby shower photos online, but it’s never been for me. It was just family and close friends, so there wasn’t much reason for us to go all out. I wanted to save money to buy the things we’d need for our little one once she was here. I’m a simple gal (my wedding cost under $500), and my husband loves me for it.
If you do all of these things, I praise you. You are a super woman who deserves to be praised, but I know you have struggles just like the rest of us.
If you don’t, join the club. Be okay with that, be happy with what you have. Enjoy your baby, don’t focus on the outside noise.
Once I got pregnant, I vowed to stay to true to myself and that is what I have so proudly done. But some days, I wish I was one of the moms who had it all together like the “pinterest moms” and the “instagram moms”, and then I realize. . . It’s the internet. People only show what they want to show, they let you peak in to the their little world for just a small glimpse of what it’s like to be them. You never know what else they have going on outside of that post or what it took for them to get there. I have had people say, “I wish I had a life like yours.”
and I have to stop, and remember where I came from. I did not stumble upon this life, I worked towards it and I made it my b*tch when life tried to get one over on me. I molded life to fit the one I always wanted. I CHOSE to be happy, I CHOSE to make the best of my life.
You can, too.